Bad Touch

(The following article is for teens but it also gives alarms to adults)

Bad Touch

Touches that make you feel uncomfortable are bad. But you don't have to feel that you're bad. Your body belongs to you, and nobody can/should touch you if you don't want it. Do you know when a touch is bad?

• When it hurts you
• When someone touches you where you don't want to be touched
• When someone touches you in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable
• When it makes you feel scared or nervous
• When someone forces you to touch him/her
• when somone asks you not to tell anyone, and threatens to hurt you if you do

You can decide who can touch you, kiss you, hug you. You have the right to say no. What would you do if someone touched you inappropriately?

• Say NO! Tell him/her you don't like it and you don't want to be touched.
• Get away quick! Run away from the person whose touch you don't like. Never again stay alone with him/her.
• Call for help. Scream rather.
• Believe in yourself. You did nothing wrong!

Sure Success in Online Dating

People often consider online dating when they are looking for a mate. If you are considering online dating, you will want to be aware of a few dos and don'ts.

First, not all dating sites are created equal, so to speak. Some cater to people looking for a casual relationship or for just sex, while others are designed for people looking for serious relationships. If you want a serious relationship, you'll want to use a website that is designed for finding serious partners.

One such site is eHarmony. This site requires that new members fill out very extensive questionnaires that ask for all sorts of information. They then use this information to match people up with others who share similar lifestyles, goals, and beliefs.

To maximize your chances of success in online dating, here are some tips:

Use a natural-looking photo of yourself in your program. The best way to get attention for your profile is with the right photo. Never use a fake photo though, it is dishonest and the person you later meet will be understandably angry. Don't use a photo of you looking exceptionally great either, you don't want to encourage disappointment.

Photos that have been retouched, or are unusually perfect or are out of date, are a bad idea. Your goal should be to choose a flattering photo that looks like you will look when you meet a person for your first date. If you don't look like that any more, or don't look like that without a professional makeup artist and hairstylist helping you, choose a different photo. Do always put up a photo though. The primary reason that people don't get responses to their profiles is because of not having a photo.

Your bio also needs careful planning. You want to write just enough to get someone's interest and give a glimpse of your personality. Err on the side of brevity; short is better than long. A longwinded bio says to a reader that you are self-absorbed, not an attractive trait. Always be honest in your bio as well.

You may be tempted to include more information because you think that this increases your chances of attracting the right person. Not true. You can actually turn someone off if you come across as tiresome or long-winded.

Other people are not as interested in you as you are. Don't think that they will consider your details interesting. Aim for just enough to get someone to want to know more instead of so much that all curiosity is satisfied. Whatever you do post should be accurate and honest.

Meeting Singles

You've probably tried it. Meeting singles, that is. Not Fruitful? Frustrating, you say? Well, time to assess why. Are you presenting yourself right? Here's how... 

Be Confident

People are attracted to those who feel good about themselves and appear confident. If you feel desirable and sexy, it makes sense that others will too. If low self-esteem is your problem, work on it. When you treat yourself with respect, you foster a healthy sense of self.

Be Yourself

Never try to to be someone you aren't. Not only will you seem insincere but will make others edgy too. Trying to be cool and aggressive just makes you awkward and unapproachable. Relax, be natural, be the 'you' that others appreciate.

Be Cheerful

Ever encountered sullen, negative, unapproachable strangers? A smile can change all that. Keep your expression open and inviting. Make good eye contact. You will draw people. Let that attractive stranger know you are open to meeting her. If she responds, the ice is already broken!

Be The Best You Can

Always groom and clothe yourself well. Attractiveness is not about beautiful features or a fabulous body; it's about presenting what you have in the best light possible. this includes an attractive personality. Be friendly, not pushy. Be open, not indiscreet. Be intelligent, not a know-it-all.

Be Smart

Have some great ice-breakers ready. (Hint: Natural conversation is the best)

Be Enterprising

There is no rules any more about who moves first. See someone interesting? Go ahead! If they don't reciprocate, move away gracefully. Rejection is an ever present risk. If you let that fear hinder you, you will greatly harm your chances of connecting with compatible singles.

Closing Words

Keep your dependence and independence in balance. Tell and show your partner how much you need him or her. But never cling - that can make your partner feel trapped.